Zombieing defines that person who, after disappearing from our lives without saying anything, suddenly returns with a message. However, this return is no coincidence: the zombie knocks on our hungry door, needs to feed his ego and boost his self-esteem.
In recent years we have become familiar with terms such as ghost (disappearing from a person’s emotional life without explanation) or orbiting (cutting off the relationship with a person, but continuing to interact with them through social media). You are almost forced to add a new word to this list: zombie.
- Whether or not you like this series of Anglo-Saxon names.
- It is an undeniable fact.
- Naming these phenomena closely related to the world of new technologies is already a necessity.
- Because such means have changed the way we relate and.
- Above all.
- The way we build (and destroy) our relationships as a couple.
- But also friendships.
Zombieing defines a type of behavior that can be familiar to us: it refers to this person who practices ghosting and, miraculously, “comes back to life”. In addition, it does so via sms, a simple WhatsApp or a comment on social networks. Someone, who was considered extinct, returns to our present, normally and with one goal: to revive the relationship.
In addition to being unique (or bizarre), the term zombie keeps reflecting a reality that occurs very often and the worst thing is that these dynamics generate great suffering.
If it is already difficult to assume the inexplicable disappearance of a person with which we were emotionally united, dealing with their return puts the person at a very particular crossroads.
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Someone is immersed in their work, in a leisure time with friends, or sharing life with their current partner and suddenly happens. We got a notification on the cell phone, we took a look and there it is.
Someone who was important to us and who decided not to answer for no reason returns to our present with a joyful feast, an innocence and even a subtle charm.
He usually does it through very common phrases, like “Hello, how are you?”Do I miss you? Hello, I saw you in your Instagram photos; Would you like to go out for a drink?When this happens in the first person, we experience what’s called Zombieing, a term created in 2016.
In addition, these 21st century zombies have the unusual, and almost supernatural, ability to return exactly when we overcome the pain caused by their absence. We are rebuilding our lives with emotional bandages, bandages and stitches trying to heal the wound for its lack. that ghost that almost fractured us and all of a sudden. . . is knocking on our door.
What to do in these situations? Besides, what kind of profile is behind the zombie phenomenon?
The person accustomed to the zombie (behavior that occurs in men and women) does not make his stellar appearance on Halloween.
The real zombie arrives when he’s hungry. His desire to feed his hungry ego prompts him to seek contact with those who, at one point, gave him what he needed most: admiration, affection and attention.
We could call them narcissists. Also as immature and empathetic people, however, in this type of behavior several processes converge. One is the weakening of relationships. You don’t need to have a personality disorder; instead of using clinical dominance, we should see it as a social behavior, an increasingly widespread model.
Whoever has left for no reason needs no excuse to return, he does so because he does not appreciate relationships or relationships, because he does not weigh his conscience and sees no problem in his behavior, for whom he was once a ghost and has now become a zombie, everything flows and moves according to desires and needs. Love is disposable, used, discarded and even recyclable, if desired.
If this exparege comes back into our lives some time after leaving us, it does so mainly to strengthen its ego and, of course, its immediate reality is not very stimulating. She needs more reinforcements and therefore hopes we can feed her as before.
Suffering from zombies usually put us in a difficult situation, the wounds open up again, the balance that we reach after this absence is disturbed and, above all, anger and surprise appear, why do these people who return to our lives do so in a new way?and brilliantly, trying to get our attention?As if nothing had happened.
What should we do in these circumstances? First, be careful, we should not lose sight of the temptation we feel to read these messages, to listen to audios, to receive invitations that remind us of the days and times we have spent. For his return is never accidental or innocuous; The zombie always demands something, always comes back hungry and is good at opening healed scars.
If it’s any use to have experienced a ghost, it’s not to let the same thing happen to us again. Love is not about ghosts or zombies; any relationship that hurts, hurts and hurts is not real, and it is better to impose a distance.
So the best thing we can do is ignore these messages, block them, prevent them from entering our lives and protect, above all, the sacred territory of our hearts.